Our lives today are fuller and richer than ever before, but often at the expense of sexual intimacy. Our libido or sex drive is a reflection of our overall health, and that a healthy sex drive not only indicates a well-balanced life, but sexual intimacy has significant health benefits. Studies show that having a healthy sex life can: Boost your immune system, Promote heart health, Alleviate stress, and Increase longevity.
If you find yourself “on ice” in the intimacy category, the list below might be why. If you think you are having problems in one or more of these areas talk to your spouse and or doctor. Enjoy life to the fullest!
10 Sex-Drive Killers
You may be the kind of person who does many things well when under stress. But feeling sexy isn't likely to be one of them. Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family member, family life, and other stressors can decrease libido. To keep your stress levels in check, learn helpful stress management techniques or seek the advice of a counselor or doctor.
Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance. The reason isn't clear, but may be linked to self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma, and other psychological issues.
Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.
Too Little Sleep
If your sexual get-up-and-go…. got-up-and-went, maybe you're getting up too early or getting to bed too late. Or maybe you have insomnia or sleep apnea. Whatever it is that's interfering with your sleep, it's also interfering with your sex drive. Too little sleep creates fatigue. Fatigue saps sex drive.
Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot. Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship. New baby in the home? Try scheduling sex during the baby's nap time.
Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include:
- Blood pressure medications
- Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)
- Anti-HIV drugs
Poor Body Image
It's hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being too heavy (even if you’re not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there's a flip side to the equation: Working out and losing weight not only enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex drive! Bonus, it’s a two for one.
Testosterone increases sex drive. As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly. Not all men lose the desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop -- but many do. Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women, too. But a woman's hormonal balance is more complex than a man's. Testosterone therapy may be a safe and effective method for boosting sex drive in men, ask your doctor.
It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive -- and so does depression. But if your sex drive has drooped, it might be a sign that you're depressed. Clinical depression is a serious, but treatable condition.
Too Little Intimacy
Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer. Intimacy isn't just a code word for sex. If your sex life is in neutral, try spending more non-sexual intimate time together -- alone. Talk, snuggle, and trade massages. Learn to express affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.